No married couple dreams of ending their marriage in divorce. Yet, it is believed that 40%-50% of first marriages in the United States end divorce. It is also estimated that majority of divorce petitioners are women. The most common reasons while women file for divorce are infidelity, incompatibility, personality problems, physical abuse, and lack of communication. Divorce is a stressful process. Not to mention its effect on the lives of children.
Divorce provokes a more regressive behavior in children. It also induces the feeling of insecurity, anxiousness, and aggressiveness. Aside from that, children of divorced parents also suffer from low self-esteem, depression, and emotional pain. Divorce can affect the academic and social skills of children. Child custody is another part of divorce that negatively affects children.
Due to these effects, parents should make sure that they choose a divorce method that will have minimal effect in the lives of their children. Over the past years, divorce meditation has become the popular choice of couples who are filing for divorce. This method will help them achieve quicker result in a painless manner.
Divorce mediation is a process that aims to reduce the tension between the divorcing couple and help them maintain a good relationship for the benefits of their children. The process usually involves the discussion of child custody, support, division of the couple’s joint properties, alimony, and visitation.
Compared to the traditional divorce process that can take years, divorce mediation usually takes 4 to 8 sessions to complete the divorce agreement. However, the time needed for the separation agreement will depend on the availability of the parties involved to communicate and the complexity of the case. To better understand why divorce mediation is popular, it would be a good idea to determine its benefits.
Benefits of Divorce Mediation
It is Less Traumatic to Children: Since the process gives the couple the chance to resolve any conflict they have, children are more likely to accept the process and possible changes in their lives in calmer way. Knowing that their parents have separated in good speaking terms will also help children maintain a good relationship with both of their parents.
Less Time Consuming and Cheaper Than Traditional Divorce Litigation Process: Depending on the complexity of the case, traditional divorce can take years before it can be finalized. On the other hand, divorce medication can only take up to 8 sessions before the divorce agreement is completed. It only costs 1,500 to 7,000 dollars for both couples. Whereas, adversarial divorce can cost 15,000 to 150,000 dollars for each party involved.
It Ensures Confidentiality and Privacy: Divorce mediation enables the couples to discuss and solve their conflicts in private as they are not required to go to a courthouse. The mediator is the one responsible for dealing with all the paperwork and contacts issues or needed by the court.
Although divorce negatively affects children, there are certain situations that make it the best option that couples can take for the betterment of every body involved. Divorce mediation is the best way for tackling the issues involved with minimal effect on children.
General David Petraeus’ resignation and admission of an extramarital affair bloody the waters and the news media are in a feeding frenzy. Another powerful man been brought down by having inappropriate sexual behavior with a beautiful younger woman. The responses cover a broad range of speculations from man will be men to powerful men are over sexed. The response that caught my attention is that power is an aphrodisiac. To accept that conclusion tends to indict men who are loyal to their marriage.
I believe there is another answer that far more powerful and more profound than the need to satisfy an overactive sex drives. To suggest that so many powerful men would risk everything they had achieved solely for sex is a gross over-simplification. The political, social, family and often financial cost at stake just do not make good sense. Men in powerful positions did not reach the position of importance by making senseless decisions and having poor judgment.
If we examine this behavior from a wider and a more profound position, other than the surface view of power and sex, we may reach a different conclusion. To understand this behavior as a psycho-dynamic of two individuals in a symbiotic attachment, each living out some unresolved childhood psychological issue may be more productive. The literatures are full of incidences in which sexual activity used to ease hidden and unresolved issues, many from childhood. For instance, we can agree that rape has nothing to do with sex, but everything to do with control and aggression.
Whenever we notice a sexual deviation in adults-such as perversion and fetishism further examination will reveal some experience in the area of fixation in childhood (Freud, 1924). To make the connection I must quote from Freud’s principle of psychic determinism or causality which states “consciousness is an exceptional rather than a regular attribute of psychic processes.” In other words, we are too often driven by unconscious desires and less by conscious understanding. We all at, one time or another promised ourselves that we will never again do this or that… and find that we repeat the undesirable behavior again and again. Why? It may serve some unconscious needs. Therefore, we should, at least, entertain the idea that the knowledge received by the consciousness of what is happening in daily lives, including sexual behavior, liable to be incomplete, full of gaps, or driven by unconscious (childhood) needs.
In this instance, instead of power and sex, I see it as a symbiotic relationship, an unspoken (unconscious) agreement between two individuals. Symbiosis understood as a disguised representation of a repressed wish or impulse, or a close, often neurotic, attachment of one individual to another. The position that I take on this subject based on certain facts of daily life. For example, it is easy to show that value the mind places on erotic needs instantly diminishes as soon as satisfaction becomes readily obtainable; any dispute about this died long ago. Certain school of psychology accepted the belief that a husband is never anything but a proxy. The husband is never the right man, the first claim upon the feeling of love in a woman belongs to someone else; her father. The husband is at best a second. Rather the husband rejected or not depends upon the strength of this fixation (Freud, 1924). To experience a fully and normal attitude in love two emotion have to unite; the tender, affectionate feelings and the sensual feeling. Psychology inform us to be free and happy in love one must set aside his deferential approach for women, and embrace the blinding light of the incest taboo.
I believe, I have set the foundation in which to answer several questions that part of the conversation involves extramarital affair between powerful men and younger women. For example, why do women prefer powerful men when it comes to relationships? And why do powerful men engage in extramarital affairs more than powerful women?
First, we must accept the position that power indicates authority, The President of the United States, an army general, the policeman on the block, teacher in the classroom, or the father in the home. These are all position of power and authority.
Power and authority play no role. The individual participates in the relationships to live out a childhood wish, or an unresolved childhood conflict. In adulthood, sex is, often, the vehicle used to act out the forbidden wish.
Extramarital affairs the men involved are older women are often younger and unmarried. Now, if one can look beyond the glaring hot light of society’s strong taboo against incest one will see the father/daughter relationship.
In the symbiotic attachment, the younger woman (daughter) finally gained the upper hand on the older woman (mother) the daughter now have her first love (father) the older man. The childhood wish is now complete. However, there is a price to pay for violating society’s taboo against (father/daughter) incest. Often it is the man who must pay in the form of political, social, personal, and family embarrassments and public disgrace. A great price to pay: and a form of punishment for being on the wrong side of the incest taboo. Sometime the wayward individual themselves start the dominoes to fall that reveals the behavior.
As for women of power and women who seek out powerful men, both are dancing to the same tune. But sex or power is not the driving force the goal is to gain the love of the “father.” However, the woman who is powerful and the woman who seek powerful men take separate path to accomplish their goals. The personality of the individual and the child within determine which path taken.
The woman who seek powerful men most likely was “daddy’s little girl” as a child she put her father on a pedestal, if there is tension between mother and father she takes her father’s position. However, deeply repressed is her anger with your father for choosing another woman (mother) over her but the hostility is unconscious she fear that if daddy learn her true feeling he would reject her.
The women who seek power in her own right do not place men (father) on pedestals or worship them in any significant way, women who seek personal power, instead of powerful men do not have a strong desire for approval from men (father) they are more comfortable competing with men. These women are not “daddy’s little girl” they attitude toward father-figure is more aggressive and competitive.
However, do not be misled these women of power are also seeking the love of the father. These women also feel rejected and must compete with mother for father’s love, but they take a different approach. The women of power, as a child, reject the “good girl, obedience mother” approach as a way to gain father’s love. Instead, they become more like the father, aggressive, demanding, authoritative, and seek power as a tool to control and to achieve immediate gratification. These women become their fathers.
Women with power, unlike men with power, seldom involved in highly publicized sexual embarrassment. In fact, this behavior mirrors society in general in which older women have little appetite for the seduction of younger men. Women of power are seldom in public sexual embarrassment involving younger men. Women who are motivated to achieve power and authority as the ultimate goal of success may not see sex as a premium to reach their goals.
S. Freud, 1924, The Passing of the Oedipus-Complex
This article should not be taken as a broad brush to paint all relationship between older men and younger women as neurotic. The goal is to offer another way to examine relationships between powerful men and younger women, and not through the lens of sex and power.
Having to go through a situation where your ex girlfriend has broken up with you and you know that you just want to find a way to get her back is challenging in every sense of the word. You have all of these feelings about her that seem to spring up and when they do, they let you know for sure that getting her back is what you want to do. However, when it comes time to think of what you need to do to win her back, you find that you are really perplexed. That’s not going to help any, is it?
Here are 3 tips that are going to help you if you want your ex girlfriend back:
1. Wanting her back is one thing, actually trying to get her back is another.
I say this because there are countless men who will say that they want to win back an ex girlfriend right after a break up, but when it comes right down to it, they don’t really want to put in much effort. It doesn’t take any effort to want her back, it does take effort to actually try to get her back. So, you need to decide if you are willing to put forth the effort that is needed to attract her back to you.
2. You can’t win her back by being depressed all of the time.
It can be depressing to have to deal with a break up, and it is natural to feel that way a little bit. However, you can’t win her back when you are in that state of being. It’s not really attractive for a guy to look and sound like he is depressed all of the time and the one thing that you really need to do if you want her back is to make her feel like she is attracted to you. Ditch the depressed look and sound if you can. It’s not going to make her come back to you.
3. Finding a way to make her see that things can be worked out is key to attracting her back.
Your ex girlfriend has to see that there is some hope that things are going to be better than they were towards the end of the relationship if you want to attract her back to you. As long as she gets the impression that things are going to be exactly the way that they were without any change or without things getting better, you are fighting an uphill battle.
Google marriage counseling and you’ll find sites singing its praises; sites claiming it’s just a waste of time and money; self help programs saying you don’t need counseling if you just buy their program; and a bunch of therapist’s websites eagerly trying to get you to come to them.
This cacophony of information would be confusing enough at the best of times, but if you’re looking into marriage counseling it’s likely the most important part of your life is falling apart. The last thing you need right now is something else to think about.
There are only three things you need to know before deciding if marriage counseling is right for you.
1 – Does it work?
2 – Can I afford it?
And 3- Is my marriage worth saving?
Does marriage counseling work? With so many marriages in trouble the couples therapy business has to be booming right, and still it seems like everyone is getting divorced anyway. Sadly most couples just get divorced without ever seeing a marriage therapist. Because there are so many couples not seeking help, most marriage therapists work in other areas of mental health, and don’t actually do much if any marriage counseling.
Well that’s all very interesting but is couples counseling effective? Most of the time couples who do seek help, use marriage therapy as a kind of last ditch effort before divorce. The marriage is in serious distress, and often one person is not really engaged in the process. With emotionally focused marriage therapy, 75 percent of these generally distressed marriages show significant improvement after marriage counseling. For couples who don’t wait, and where both partners are engaged in the process the effectiveness of marriage counseling rises to 90 percent.
OK so marriage counseling works, but can I afford it? The price of marriage counseling ranges from about $75 an hour on the low end to above $200 an hour on the high end. To be effective most couples need to attend therapy once a week for about 8 to 12 weeks. If you’re bad at math you’re looking at between $600 and $2400. Realistically you’re going to spend about $1200.
Not an entirely insignificant amount, but good luck getting divorced for $1200, and how much is a happy emotionally satisfied marriage worth? Would you pay $1200 for your marriage to be more like it was when you first got married? And what are the emotional costs of staying in an unhappy marriage, what are the emotional costs of divorce, on you, on your spouse, on your children, parents, siblings, friends.
But is my marriage worth saving? The only person who can answer that is you. But let us be perfectly clear on this. This is a life defining question not to be taken lightly. Coming up with a real answer requires asking a bunch of other hard questions and some pretty deep soul searching, and maybe, just maybe some help that an outside professional dedicated to the happiness of individuals, couples, and families can provide.
Jared Whipple is a Marriage and Family Therapist, founding member of the Centre for Applied Positive Psychology, and the Director of the American Association of Mediators Counselors and Family Therapists. Jared is passionate about helping couples find happiness and avoid divorce.
If you’ve ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn’t know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. It may seem like it’s magical or out of reach – a special ability or super-power that someone is born with.
However its definitely not.
The primary step is to understand that in the vicinity of 90% of the contrast between somebody who’s okay with women and somebody who’s not all that great or unremarkable with women, is the capacity to recognize a woman who’s primed to make out.
I know it sounds sort of insane right away, yet its accurate.
Don’t get tied up with the myth that ladies don’t need this to happen.
More often than not, this “turbo” make-out session never happens, since such a large number of gentlemen are hesitant to pull out all the stops. staying being somewhat intend to a mess of fellows in the bar/being angry and furious on the grounds that neither man nor woman approaching them.
There are a couple of amazing markers that will (particularly in a bar environment) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session.
What To Look For;
The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.
(for example)-If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she’s saying: “I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I’m looking down.” And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn’t just use her eyes to look down), she’s physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission.
This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.
What To Do;
This is the place the most capable sort of casing control comes in. It’s quite, extremely essential that you follow how to control another person outline provided that you need to appear to be you’re an expert at.
By “frame,” I basically mean their “reality.” You’re controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately.
Signs That It’s Working ;
Is she looking at your lips? If she’s looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she’s looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.
This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It’s a strange loop-hole in psychology.
In a loud environment like a bar, you’ll want to speak louder, but don’t raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.
This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.
As you’re speaking really close to her ear, you’ll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you’re talking. Then you’ll move you head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then… you’ll start kissing her.
If you think that your wife might be cheating on you, it’s time that you learned the truth. You shouldn’t have to play this guessing game with yourself for another moment. If she isn’t going to confess and tell you exactly what is going on, you are prepared to do some detective work of your own to learn the truth and that is what you want to do today.
You want to learn how to prove your wife is having an affair. You are done trying to read her mind and you don’t deserve to be treated like this. Therefore, you need to learn these top 5 ways to catch her in the act now and finally lay it to rest.
To help you to get down to the bottom of what is going on in your marriage, here are the tips and tricks that you need to learn now to find out if your wife is being unfaithful.
#1 – She’s never around. When a woman is trying to keep something secret, she needs to spend as much time away from the person she is hiding the secret from as much as possible. If she doesn’t, she has the chance to become emotionally vulnerable and if she is in that scenario, there is a good chance she won’t be able to keep it together. If she is never around anymore, working late or hanging out with her friends, you need to keep this in mind because chances are, she is making up excuses and her time is spent elsewhere.
#2 – There’s no more intimacy. This is the biggest sign to look out for. If you and your wife all of a sudden stopped having sex and now it has been months since that have happened, if she isn’t getting it from you, she is probably out there enjoying it from someone else. However, if she does come home late and gets into bed with you immediately and you both have great sex, that also means she is cheating. When a person feels guilty, they feel like they have to make the situation right, so she will sleep with you after spending time with him to make you feel good, but in actuality, it is her that she is trying to make feel better.
#3 – She’s all over the place. Sometimes she’s happy, sometimes she’s sad, sometime she’s mad and sometimes, she’s just plain crazy. If her emotions are all over the place and you have no idea what side of her you are going to see next, something is going on with her that is causing her to feel so imbalanced and stressed, which might be her affair.
#4 – Everything is hidden. When someone has nothing to hide, they keep their belongings out in the open. If you haven’t seen her laptop or cell phone in months, then she is hiding something. When she is on her phone, ask if you can borrow it to check something online. If she refuses, it’s because she doesn’t want you to see something that she is trying to keep from you. Watch out.
#5 – Ask her. As crazy as it sounds, just asking her if she is having an affair will really open a can of worms. Of course, she will deny it but it is how she denies it that matters. If she lashes out and starts becoming incredibly defensive, that is something to watch out for. If she starts becoming incredibly emotional, that’s also a sign. If she wasn’t cheating, she would comfort you and reassure you that nothing is going on with sincerity and maturity. Any other reaction and you need to look out for yourself.
You shouldn’t have to feel this way for another moment. Use these tips to help you figure out how to get proof that your wife is cheating on you so you can catch her in the act and lay it to rest today.
Because of addiction to so called love, she has difficulty making choices between her personal wellbeing and disrespect he displays toward her.
She exhibits dependency and insecurity, giving the impression she is too helpless to function independently of a conning, sometimes overbearing man, whose jealousy and control is not about any love he pretends to show toward her. It is about making sure to protect his interest against another guy’s encroachment. Thing is, she might mean something else to him-caring and loving, while his interests are sex and other benefits, which he attempts to protect by controlling her to prevent another man from snatching her.
She consistently exercises poor judgment and lack of assertiveness, leaving her vulnerable to the extent of every other love partner treating her as doormat. Knowing the dire situation of the relationship, she questions why, but never makes an effort to reevaluate what exactly men that do not know each other, let alone compare notes, see about her that invite using her to their respective advantage.
By her behaviour and attitude, she unsuspectingly allows him or others to act on her behalf by supposedly expressing what she truly thinks and feels but unwilling to speak out; by placating her self-worth, she inadvertently transfers power to him, giving him authority to speak for both of them. She is quite aware that his extreme jealousy could lead to violence, but remains convinced she could manage his behaviour; after all, he loves her, she tells herself. Because of a sense of love emanating from him, albeit false, she remains in an unconscious state of denial about her ominous situation, despite friends and relatives support and advice to reevaluate and drop the loser.
Because she lacks self-worth though denies it, she has a habit of always finding excuses for why she cannot stand up for herself against physical and mental abuse by him. In addition, she chooses not to walk away owing to responding to threats from him that if she did, bad thing will happen to her. What she does not realize, much less understand is, such a threat is code for his fear of what could happen to him if she left. The principal message from any guy posing threats against a woman in such a fashion is, “I am scared and dependent on you”; if you walk away I will fall apart. Only smart women have the ability to discern a controlling man’s weaknesses, based on warnings and threats. Seemingly, women have not come to grip with the common cord that runs through every scared, dependent, yet controlling man. Generally, they are lazy and would never dream of walking away to be by themselves. The second reason for staying put, even though he makes her look like crap is, he is never sure if the next woman would put up with his laziness as his current partner does. Habits are hard to break; thus, a guy that is used to controlling women would be hard pressed to adjust to another woman capable of standing up to him. Essentially, because he is so dependent on women supporting him, he has no clue how living alone would affect his survival.
You give him a free pass to continue mistreating you when you surrender your values by signaling you are needy, vulnerable and might become lonely if he leaves you. It might not be in his active makeup to dream of leaving, knowing he is too lazy to be on his own. Yet he will play up his readiness to move on, having sized you up enough to know you are supposedly weak.
As female, another reason why you find excuses in his favour is that as much as he mistreats you, you are the one feeling scared and guilty that if you walked away something might happen to him. In essence, you are scared for him. Hmm! A classic case of lacking self-introspection is when you, the victim of abuse allows pity for the criminal-the abuser to cloud your judgment about making the ultimate decision to walk. Is that pretentious smile you often wear around family, friends, and co-workers a mere shield, covering the hurt feelings you endure daily because of your partner’s behaviour and attitude toward you? Hurt feelings or not, dependently controlling men maintain one trick that pulls vulnerable women in ways that neutralize momentary anger. Good old sex with a twist of “baby I love you.” Women like to hear, if not having a man hug them and say I love you. Unlike men, whose endgame must include penetration, making love for many women could mean a mere hug, kiss and cuddling. Does this describe you in any way?
Finally, against all odds, she refuses to acknowledge the toxicity of the relationship to her peril, even though she is a sucker for protecting him, while inadvertently allowing him to filter out what he does not want to hear, coming from her. Arguably, she is living in unconscious denial about the reality that takes away from her in favour of rewarding him, despite his disdain for her. She cannot be sure that he feels guilty for his behaviour as much as she feels it is her fault for why he behaves negatively toward her. Hence, my diagnosis is, any woman that qualifies as owning any or all of the above drawbacks, would be correct in defining themselves as unworthy, which invites the doormat perception about you. You simply lack soul, which forces me to ask this question: for whom are you living and why, if you have cut yourself loose human dignity to accommodate a loser man? How do you plead?
Dating Agencies certainly are a single person’s best friend. If you’re single and looking to get a matchmaking service to support you in finding a potential partner, there’s really no better way than through the use of one or more of these services.
If you’re wondering, there isn’t any distinction between a “dating agency” along with a “dating service”; they are the same thing. The term “agency” is perhaps used more infrequently through the person with average skills, but it is a standard term adopted from the online relationship services industry because the other term is viewed to think professionalism, trust , experienced representation.
Whether your preference is to locate dating agency in the real world or use one of many dating agencies available online, you must first decide what it’s just that you desire their dating intend to do for you. Obviously you would like a date, but precisely what are your requirements?
Some services are experts in finding dates for business people. Others specialize in matching people of your specific ethnicity, whilst some dating agencies will still only take care of high-class wealthy customers. Naturally, additionally, there are general dating agencies; those who cater to broad needs and that will assist you determine what exactly you would like. It is advisable that you might try to define your dating goals towards the better of what you can do in advance. Selecting the right dating agency to match your needs through the outset will greatly transform your likelihood of an optimistic experience.
In case you are new to the industry you could feel somewhat embarrassed through the use of this type of service, however, you needn’t be. Whilst it may well be a new comer to you, the availability of your dating service is what these dating agencies do professionally. Further, single women and men who will be registered just like you – seeking dates. Once you’re taking the initial step toward while using the help of dating agencies to locate a date you’ll wonder why you ever hesitated.
Naturally, few people will speak positively of the experiences with these businesses. Just just like the act of dating, don’t assume all of these companies will fit you, just like any business, not all business/customer relationships go well. You should approach the task of choosing from the pool of possible dating agencies just as that you would approach picking out a potential date through the pool of individual profiles. Find out, don’t rush in, attempt to understand others experiences, and try to get a feel for how professional their services are as quickly as possible.
Many individuals elect to register in order to evaluate them all prior to buying one which fits them. In the internet this is made quite simple as most offer free trials. Some people also prefer online dating agencies because they can avoid in person meetings. The internet offers anonymity until such time while you finally opt to get together to get a date and this also adds a component of comfort for the whole process. Others prefer one on one meetings since it gives them a feeling of confidence with who they may be handing their private details to.
Fortunately, because of the popularity of internet matchmaking the market is becoming quite competitive. Many offer great deals to entice members. Millions of people take advantage of these offers every year, at any given time for the day most internet dating agencies can have hundreds or a large number of singles online, waiting to fulfill you.
You might eventually thank that company for letting you find your true love.
When it comes to how to seduce women, I believe that there are 2 ways to go about it. The first is to become a master manipulator. The other is to be real.
When I first started learning game, I was in manipulation mode. I had routines, contingencies and everything else you could possibly imagine. There wasn’t anything a girl could say to me that I couldn’t throw off and use. I could go for hours straight because I had so much material.
The only trouble was that this approach wasn’t making me happy. I lost my enthusiasm for it and that made my positivity drop. The result was that it all just stopped working. If you don’t care about what you’re saying, how can you expect a girl to?
So, I started looking more deeply at the things that drive attraction. I started studying other methods to see how they worked. I paid especially close attention to naturals because I wanted to understand how they could keep breaking all the rules and still going home with girls.
The second approach is to get rid of all of that stuff and work on your inner game. Build up your confidence and get rid of the social and sexual anxiety that’s holding you back. Some ofthe methods I studied paid a lot more attention to inner game. Some where nothing but. I found some really valuable things there.
For example, I discovered the ‘What If’ approach. You start by asking yourself a bunch of what-if questions, like:
- What if you didn’t have approach anxiety?
- What if you weren’t intimidated by beautiful women?
- What if you knew that every girl liked you?
- What if you knew that being with you was the best possible choice a girl could make?
- What if you knew you were The Man with women?
The idea is to get rid of your concept of yourself and stop saying, ‘Oh, that isn’t me at all.’ How would you act if you didn’t have approach anxiety? Now, act that way. These things opened up a whole new world for me.
Really, when it comes to how to seduce women, the sweet spot is somewhere in between. You need all the routines and skills, but you also have to have the right mindset. That’s why I believe in training guys to do both equally. They both come in handy.
It’s not easy having a premature ejaculation problem. If you’ve ever said “I need a cure for premature ejaculation,” you’re among millions of men who suffer from the same difficulty. If you feel like you’ve lost control and are completely frustrated you don’t have to give up hope. There is an answer. You can and will change your life by reading this article. Don’t think that you can’t have the sex life you’ve always dreamed of, it is possible and all it takes is following these easy steps.
Once you learn these tricks you’ll have the skills of a pro in your tool belt for the rest of your life. Not only are these tips safe and natural, but you won’t have to spend so many of your hard earned dollars on strange creams and pills with terrible side effects. You can change your life and wow your woman tonight.
- Make sure you masturbate before going out. This one may seem surprising, but not only is it backed by science, it’s immediately effective. Don’t masturbate more often than usual, and don’t stop masturbating all together. The trick is in the timing. Take care of business an hour or so before you plan on getting lucky. This forces your body into the refractory period, which will give you a major upper hand. You will have the advantage because your body won’t be able to reach orgasm as fast. It’s hard wired into your system. Use this to your benefit and avoid premature ejaculation tonight.
- Use a tingling lubricant as a second defense. Tingling lubricant works like magic. This secret weapon not only makes you look like you’ve been thinking about her pleasure, but will also give her an added sensation and help her get to her orgasm faster. Now, it helps you control your premature ejaculation. Tingling lubricant has a numbing agent that makes you feel less sensation. This means you won’t feel everything as intensely and can last longer every time you use it.
- Change positions whenever you need to. Another stealth move that will not only give her intense orgasms and possibly multiple orgasms, but will also make you in control. Here’s the secret: every time you feel like things are getting too hot and steamy, pull out and change positions. Not only will you give her more sensations and stimulation, you get to enjoy a break, cool off and refocus before you arrange yourself into the next position. You can use this trick as often as you need to. Make your sex life not only more adventurous, but you’ll last as long as you want to every time.
- Try using a position that changes your focus from your sex, to pleasing your partner. Okay, this one may seem obvious, but it’s really underused. By using positions, like standing up and having your woman pinned to the wall with her legs wrapped around you, you will give her deeper penetration and spend more of your energy focusing on your balance, rhythm and keeping her up. This redirection of focus will keep your attention off of your sex and will stretch your stamina light years.
Another way to avoid premature ejaculation is to avoid it all together. Here’s what I mean: get her so hot before penetration that she literally explodes when you finally get it in. Women take longer to heat up, so take your time. Start off with lots of heavy petting, using your fingers and plenty of teasing and oral sex. Don’t stop when she does have an orgasm, just keep going. Women can have multiple orgasms, and if you get her to her first orgasm without penetration, by the time you get to sex, she’ll be more sensitive, will come faster, harder and stronger than ever before, and you’ll get to enjoy it.
You now know how to build your stamina in bed the easy way. You’ll never catch yourself saying “I need a cure for premature ejaculation,” again. Use these tips, change your life and give her orgasms she’s only dreamed of tonight.